When many people first learn NVC, they become so enthusiastic about the possibilities they see unfolding, that they immediately try to put it to use everywhere. Often enough, the results can be disastrous, such that other people become deeply suspicious of NVC. Here is a sample of what people often hear from others in such circumstances:
“It’s like I’ve got a complete stranger staying in my house.”
“Don’t use this NVC thing on me.”
“What happened to you? Can’t you speak normal?”
The fundamental issue happening here, as I see it, is that people fall in love with what NVC can bring to their lives and to the world, while attributing that miracle to the language used rather than to the consciousness shift that precedes the choice of words. As a result, they use the language in their interactions with others instead of seeing it as a practice tool designed to support integration of principles and to facilitate navigation of difficult moments with mutual consent.
— from Basic Pitfalls of Using NVC by Miki Kashtan
Miki’s principle-based approach is designed to liberate people from mechanical delivery of NVC so that they can truly live NVC consciousness as they share it — certainly an awareness and a competency that I ache to support among certification candidates who work with me. This is a rare, wonderful and, in my view, much needed event.
— Penny Wassman, certified trainer and CNVC assessor (writing about the first Principle-Based Teaching Workshop in September 2012).
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