We’d love to help you improve your communication skills and set yourself up for greater connection and ability to resolve conflicts in 2022!
Sliding scale financial request for the series: $280 to $140 per person – this means we’d love to receive $280 per person for the series for our own sustainability, and would like to receive a minimum of $140 per person.
If money is an obstacle please write to us at email@example.com to ask about partial or full scholarships.
The tickets on sale from this page are “Self-Paced” tickets that give you access to the online classroom of the 4-week “Communication in Intimate Relationships” workshop series. These tickets are intended for those who will not be attending the live, online classes for this series. Instead, these tickets give you a way of taking the course, at your own speed, over an 8-month period, through our online classroom (see description of what is included below).
You will receive an email with information on how to access our online classroom (details below) at or before 11:59am (Pacific Time (PT)), Jan 14, 2022. Online access will remain open until Sept 14, 2022 at 11:59pm (PT).
(If you’d like to attend the live online Zoom sessions YOU CAN SIGN UP FOR THE LIVE 4-WEEK SERIES INSTEAD which runs Tuesdays Jan 11, 18, 25, & Feb 1, 2022.)
Please email firstname.lastname@example.org if you have questions about registration.
“Nonviolent communication (or connected communication) has helped me and my partner speak in a much more conscious and effective way. It was a perfect transition and supplement to our prior couples therapy. It helps in every way, at work, with friends, with family, etc. I can’t recommend these classes and Newt as a teacher enough. I wish we all had to take NVC classes in school, it would change the world.”
~ Elise H., San Francisco
Communication in Intimate Relationships
“It may be most difficult to empathize with those we are closest to” ~ Marshall Rosenberg, PhD., Founder of the Center for Nonviolent Communication
Now, as many of us are spending more time with our partners as a result of the corona virus, effective communication is perhaps even more vital than usual.
We know that intimate relationships can become fertile ground for highly disconnected modes of communication. There can be fierce fights where we resort to the usual tactics of blame, judgment, criticism, demands, threats and “the silent treatment.” Fueling the fire we have the well-known hot-button topics between primary partners: money, children, physical intimacy, jealousy & attachment, priorities, religion & politics, etc.
I hear variations on the following comments often:
“I don’t like how we communicate, but we don’t seem to be able to change it, and it’s maybe getting worse”
“Our issues are not really about communication.”
“If only my partner would change, I think we’d get along much better.”
Regardless of who starts it, it takes two to continue a fight or to engage in disconnected, frustrating and ineffective communication. So, even if just one of you becomes more open to dialogue, and less willing to fight, positive change happens. If you both want this change, it will happen even more quickly.
In this series we’ll be covering the essentials of healthy communication within intimate relationships. Even if you don’t believe that your issues are really about communication, you will not be able to address them effectively unless you have a way of communicating that works for you both. We invite you to take the plunge and join us! Our workshop participants are often surprised by how much fun they have as they work together on improving their communication!
Communication Dojo: Working Together to Connect!
As soon as you concern yourself with the ‘good’ and ‘bad’ of your fellows, you create an opening in your heart for maliciousness to enter. Testing, competing with, and criticizing others weaken and defeat you.— Morihei Ueshiba, Founder of Aikido
The Communication Dojo is a learning environment designed for everyone, regardless of prior experience with Nonviolent Communication. Now the Communication Dojo approach is being taught as a four week committed series – it’s a great recipe for building skills, knowledge, and community from week to week!
The Communication Dojo approach is inspired in part by teaching from martial arts. Class participants watch a brief demonstration of this structured approach to dialogue and then break into pairs and “learn by doing.”
Participants simply follow a few guidelines while having a conversation on topics of their choosing. Most seem to become quickly at ease with the basic dialogue structure, and can then start to incorporate new skills, principles and awareness at their own pace.
You will have access to the following learning resources:
- Videos teaching concepts
- Downloadable audio
- Additional class notes
- Downloadable PDF handouts
- Practice requests
- Extra videos and materials
Daily email (optional opt-in) four-week sequence of emails with bonus material:
- “Life Scripts” i.e. examples of specific dialogues and wording to bring the principles more alive and help you to integrate them
- Quotations/Poetry/Readings to capture the essence of the topic
Other features of the Communication Dojo approach:
- Minimal reliance on “jargon” i.e. language that might be confusing or alienating for those not familiar with NVC
Who’s it for?
It’s not just for couples – Many people attend this series with a partner, but some people attend without their partner, and we also invite “anyone who’s been part of a couple in the past or intends to be again in the future.”
Experienced with NVC? – Do you sometimes find that your attempts to use NVC do not lead to the connection you want? Perhaps they even lead to greater disconnection? Or are you looking for a different kind of NVC learning environment for friends, family members, or colleagues you really want to introduce to the power and potential of NVC.
New to NVC? – Come try out the Communication Dojo. You’ll find that whatever your current approach to communication, you can start from that point and expand your range of options from there at a rate that suits you.
About the Training Team
About Newt Bailey
Newt’s passion is to help people communicate with each other more deeply, to experience greater intimacy, and to find the potential for mutually-satisfying change that lies within conflict.
From his first training in 2005 Newt has set out to understand and share with others the essential core of NVC. He believes strongly in teaching the principles of NVC in a way that frees students from specialized language, and allows facility with connected communication to grow in small, quickly assimilated steps. The Communication Dojo has been Newt’s testing ground for his latest ideas and approaches, and he is now bringing it to BayNVC.
Since 2006 Newt has been facilitating NVC groups, and leading intro classes and class series like Foundations 1, Foundations 2, and his own Communication Dojo classes, in public and organizational settings, and with prisoners and parolees. He is also on the teaching team of John Kinyon’s NVC Mediation yearlong programs, most recently co-leading a yearlong program in Poland.
About Leah Sheldon
Leah G. Sheldon is a communication coach, mediator, and trainer based in San Francisco. She brings a deep sense of presence, balance, and humor into all of her work, along with a focus on mindfulness practices and body awareness.
Leah especially enjoys working with clients in preparing for difficult conversations, conflict coaching, and NVC skills development. The practice of Nonviolent Communication has enriched Leah’s life since her first introductory course back in 2010 with Newt, and she is delighted to help others find more ease and choice in the way they talk and think.
PEOPLE ARE TALKING ABOUT THE COMMUNICATION DOJO
“I really enjoyed the instant feedback telling me how my words were impacting my partner.”
“The real power point is reporting on what’s happening in the moment.”
“I think I just broke through my habit of being hard on myself!”
“I saw how mistaken I often am about whether I really ‘get’ the other person, or they get me – this process allowed us to see that and really get each other.”