Jul. 31 thru Mar. 31
Sliding scale financial request for the series: $280 to $140 per person – this means we’d love to receive $280 per person for the series for our own sustainability, and would like to receive a minimum of $140 per person.
If money is an obstacle please write to us at firstname.lastname@example.org to ask about partial or full scholarships.
The tickets on sale from this page are “Self-Paced” tickets that give you access to the online classroom of the 4-week “Anger, Judgments & Self-Connection” workshop series. These tickets are intended for those who will not be attending the live, online classes for this series. Instead, these tickets give you a way of taking the course over an 8-week period, through our online classroom (see description of what is included below).
Your remote access to our online classroom (details below) will start at or before 11:59am (PDT), on Friday Jul 31st 2020. Online access will remain open until Mar 31st 2021 at 11:59pm (PDT).
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(If you’d like to attend the live online Zoom sessions PLEASE CLICK HERE TO REGISTER FOR 4-WEEK SERIES WITH LIVE SESSIONS)
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“Nonviolent communication (or connected communication) has helped me and my partner speak in a much more conscious and effective way. It was a perfect transition and supplement to our prior couples therapy. It helps in every way, at work, with friends, with family, etc. I can’t recommend these classes and Newt as a teacher enough. I wish we all had to take NVC classes in school, it would change the world.”
~ Elise H., San Francisco
“The course is taught by a fantastic instructor from whom I’ve taken multiple classes in the past, Newt Bailey. Newt’s classes are engaging, interactive and packed with actionable tools and insights. I always get a ton out of the practical exercises which cement new learnings right during class time. The material is approachable and taught in bite-sized chunks; plus Newt actively tailors the course to what the class participants are most interested in. During the practice sessions there is even the chance to work on real issues.”
~ frequent Communication Dojo participant, 2019
Dealing with Anger and Negative Judgments – Your Own and Other People’s – and Creating a Practice of Self-Connection
When others speak while angry you might have a hard time hearing them, even though they really want to be heard. The same is true when you speak while angry – it almost certainly means that you’ll experience less connection, more conflict, and the frustration of knowing that the way you’re communicating is really unlikely to lead to the outcomes you want. If I speak while angry I’ll probably end up even more angry about how my anger is affecting my ability to communicate!
In this series we’ll practice ways to make it easier to listen and stay connected, even when there is a lot of anger. We’ll also practice methods of self-connection and self-understanding that help you figure out the true message of your own anger and that of others, and to extract meaning and direction from even the most painful judgments.
This is not an “anger management course.” Rather than trying to manage our anger when it happens, or trying and manage it out of existence, we find that we can allow our anger, without allowing ourselves to direct our anger at others, or inward at ourselves. Giving our anger “room”, and getting the true message it’s trying to give us seems to result in the anger coming back less often. We’ll also look at ways to express anger “safely” when it arises rather than stuffing it inside.
As soon as you concern yourself with the ‘good’ and ‘bad’ of your fellows, you create an opening in your heart for maliciousness to enter. Testing, competing with, and criticizing others weaken and defeat you.— Morihei Ueshiba, Founder of Aikido
The Communication Dojo is a learning environment designed for everyone, regardless of prior experience with Nonviolent Communication. Now the Communication Dojo approach is being taught as a four week committed series – it’s a great recipe for building skills, knowledge, and community from week to week!
The Communication Dojo approach is inspired in part by teaching from martial arts. Class participants watch a brief demonstration of this structured approach to dialogue and then break into pairs and “learn by doing.”
Participants simply follow a few guidelines while having a conversation on topics of their choosing. Most seem to become quickly at ease with the basic dialogue structure, and can then start to incorporate new skills, principles and awareness at their own pace.
Details of the “Remote Access” approach to this Communication Dojo 4-week online course workshops:
- Unique online classroom for each series with:
- Video recordings from each week’s in-person class
- Downloadable audio from each week’s in-person class
- Additional class notes
- Downloadable PDF handouts
- Weekly practice requests
- Extra videos and materials
- Daily email (optional opt-in) four-week sequence of emails with bonus material:
- “Life Scripts” i.e. examples of specific dialogues and wording to bring the principles more alive and help you to integrate them
- Quotations/Poetry/Readings to capture the essence of the topic
- Homework/Practice requests each week for first 4-weeks
- Opportunity to form ongoing practice relationship with other students
- More week-to-week support in overcoming obstacles and forming new communication habits
Who’s it for?
It’s not just for couples – Many people attend this series with a partner, but some people attend without their partner, and we also invite “anyone who’s been part of a couple in the past or intends to be again in the future.”
Experienced with NVC? – Do you sometimes find that your attempts to use NVC do not lead to the connection you want? Perhaps they even lead to greater disconnection? Or are you looking for a different kind of NVC learning environment for friends, family members, or colleagues you really want to introduce to the power and potential of NVC.
New to NVC? – Come try out the Communication Dojo. You’ll find that whatever your current approach to communication, you can start from that point and expand your range of options from there at a rate that suits you.
About Newt Bailey
About Newt Bailey
Newt’s passion is to help people communicate with each other more deeply, to experience greater intimacy, and to find the potential for mutually-satisfying change that lies within conflict.
From his first training in 2005 Newt has set out to understand and share with others the essential core of NVC. He believes strongly in teaching the principles of NVC in a way that frees students from specialized language, and allows facility with connected communication to grow in small, quickly assimilated steps. The Communication Dojo has been Newt’s testing ground for his latest ideas and approaches, and he is now bringing it to BayNVC.
Since 2006 Newt has been facilitating NVC groups, and leading intro classes and class series like Foundations 1, Foundations 2, and his own Communication Dojo classes, in public and organizational settings, and with prisoners and parolees. He is also on the teaching team of John Kinyon’s NVC Mediation yearlong programs, most recently co-leading a yearlong program in Poland.
PEOPLE ARE TALKING ABOUT THE COMMUNICATION DOJO
“I really enjoyed the instant feedback telling me how my words were impacting my partner.”
“The real power point is reporting on what’s happening in the moment.”
“I think I just broke through my habit of being hard on myself!”
“I saw how mistaken I often am about whether I really ‘get’ the other person, or they get me – this process allowed us to see that and really get each other.”