Live online classes: Tuesdays Oct 12, 19, 26, & Nov 2, 2021. Online Classroom open Oct 15, 2021 – June 15, 2022
If you cannot attend these live classes, or prefer not to, but you’d still like to participate, please use the “Self-Paced” registration link below to find how you can do that.
Sliding scale financial request for the series: $340 to $170 per person – this means we’d love to receive $340 per person for the series for our own sustainability, and would like to receive a minimum of $170 per person.
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“Nonviolent communication (or connected communication) has helped me and my partner speak in a much more conscious and effective way. It was a perfect transition and supplement to our prior couples therapy. It helps in every way, at work, with friends, with family, etc. I can’t recommend these classes and Newt as a teacher enough. I wish we all had to take NVC classes in school, it would change the world.”
~ Elise H., San Francisco
Communication in Intimate Relationships
“It may be most difficult to empathize with those we are closest to” ~ Marshall Rosenberg, PhD., Founder of the Center for Nonviolent Communication
Now, as many of us are spending more time with our partners as a result of the corona virus, effective communication is perhaps even more vital than usual.
We know that intimate relationships can become fertile ground for highly disconnected modes of communication. There can be fierce fights where we resort to the usual tactics of blame, judgment, criticism, demands, threats and “the silent treatment.” Fueling the fire we have the well-known hot-button topics between primary partners: money, children, physical intimacy, jealousy & attachment, priorities, religion & politics, etc.
I hear variations on the following comments often:
“I don’t like how we communicate, but we don’t seem to be able to change it, and it’s maybe getting worse”
“Our issues are not really about communication.”
“If only my partner would change, I think we’d get along much better.”
Regardless of who starts it, it takes two to continue a fight or to engage in disconnected, frustrating and ineffective communication. So, even if just one of you becomes more open to dialogue, and less willing to fight, positive change happens. If you both want this change, it will happen even more quickly.
In this series we’ll be covering the essentials of healthy communication within intimate relationships. Even if you don’t believe that your issues are really about communication, you will not be able to address them effectively unless you have a way of communicating that works for you both. We invite you to take the plunge and join us on July 16th! Our workshop participants are often surprised by how much fun they have as they work together on improving their communication!
Communication Dojo: Working Together to Connect!
As soon as you concern yourself with the ‘good’ and ‘bad’ of your fellows, you create an opening in your heart for maliciousness to enter. Testing, competing with, and criticizing others weaken and defeat you.— Morihei Ueshiba, Founder of Aikido
The Communication Dojo is a learning environment designed for everyone, regardless of prior experience with Nonviolent Communication. Now the Communication Dojo approach is being taught as a four week committed series – it’s a great recipe for building skills, knowledge, and community from week to week!
The Communication Dojo approach is inspired in part by teaching from martial arts. Class participants watch a brief demonstration of this structured approach to dialogue and then break into pairs and “learn by doing.”
Participants simply follow a few guidelines while having a conversation on topics of their choosing. Most seem to become quickly at ease with the basic dialogue structure, and can then start to incorporate new skills, principles and awareness at their own pace.
Details of the Communication Dojo 4-week online course workshops with weekly live classes (if you’d like details of what’s offered in the self-paced course please click here)
- 4 X 2-hour live online workshops
- Unique online classroom for each series with:
- Audio recordings of classes
- Additional class notes
- Weekly practice requests
- Extra videos and materials
- Daily email (optional opt-in) for the duration of the series with bonus material:
- “Lifescripts” i.e.examples of specific dialogues and wording to bring the principles more alive and help you to integrate them
- Quotations/Poetry/Readings to capture the essence of the topic
- Same cohort of students for the whole 4-weeks
- Homework/Practice requests each week
- Opportunity to form ongoing practice relationship with other students
- More week-to-week support in overcoming obstacles and forming new communication habits
- Class size typically between 12 and 30
Some features of the Communication Dojo:
*Efficient use of class time to maximize learning
*High proportion of practice time in pairs – learning communication by communicating.
*Minimal reliance on “jargon” i.e. language that might be confusing or alienating for those not familiar with NVC.
*Little likelihood of people developing any sense of “Doing it wrong” or “Trying to do it right.”
Who’s it for?
It’s not just for couples – Many people attend this series with a partner, but some people attend without their partner, and we also invite “anyone who’s been part of a couple in the past or intends to be again in the future.”
Experienced with NVC? – Do you sometimes find that your attempts to use NVC do not lead to the connection you want? Perhaps they even lead to greater disconnection? Or are you looking for a different kind of NVC learning environment for friends, family members, or colleagues you really want to introduce to the power and potential of NVC.
New to NVC? – Come try out the Communication Dojo. You’ll find that whatever your current approach to communication, you can start from that point and expand your range of options from there at a rate that suits you.
About the Training Team
About Newt Bailey
Newt’s passion is to help people communicate with each other more deeply, to experience greater intimacy, and to find the potential for mutually-satisfying change that lies within conflict.
From his first training in 2005 Newt has set out to understand and share with others the essential core of NVC. He believes strongly in teaching the principles of NVC in a way that frees students from specialized language, and allows facility with connected communication to grow in small, quickly assimilated steps. The Communication Dojo has been Newt’s testing ground for his latest ideas and approaches, and he is now bringing it to BayNVC.
Since 2006 Newt has been facilitating NVC groups, and leading intro classes and class series like Foundations 1, Foundations 2, and his own Communication Dojo classes, in public and organizational settings, and with prisoners and parolees. He is also on the teaching team of John Kinyon’s NVC Mediation yearlong programs, most recently co-leading a yearlong program in Poland.
About Nethra Samarawickrema
Dr. Nethra Samarawickrema is an anthropologist, coach, and writer based in Sausalito, California. She provides coaching for individuals, couples, and organizations through a process that combines NVC, ethnography, and design thinking. She supports her clients in listening for their needs and connecting to what matters to them within their relationships and in their creative work. She brings design thinking to help her clients uncover blockages that have held them back from following their aspirations and pursue what they most want in their lives through a creative, iterative, and experimental process.
In her coaching practice, Listen Up, she provides dating coaching, writing coaching, and coaching for people seeking creative, meaningful work. She runs practice groups on communication during dating that helps participants understand their needs and boundaries, approach dating with playfulness, authenticity and care, and deepen intimacy by connecting with and communicating their emotions. Through the Listening Lab, she runs workshops on unblocking writing, collaboration, and difficult conversations. At Communication Dojo, she works with Newt to support participants with learning NVC and applying its transformative capacities into their lives.
She has a PhD in anthropology from Stanford University and has been practicing NVC for 22 years. In addition to her coaching, she runs ethnography workshops at technology companies and has taught at the Stanford d.School.
PEOPLE ARE TALKING ABOUT THE COMMUNICATION DOJO
“I really enjoyed the instant feedback telling me how my words were impacting my partner.”
“The real power point is reporting on what’s happening in the moment.”
“I think I just broke through my habit of being hard on myself!”
“I saw how mistaken I often am about whether I really ‘get’ the other person, or they get me – this process allowed us to see that and really get each other.”
Online Course – accessible through Zoom and phone