None of this is easy.

I just sent one of my closest friends a text. She, along with all of us, is having a tough time. I ended the text with a quote that is often on my mind: “And the day came when the risk to remain tight in

The Complexity of Apologies

“I said I’m sorry! What else could you possibly want?” Well. Let me tell you… kinda a lot. In my work as a coach, organizational consultant and trainer it hasn’t taken long to see repeat patterns in human relationships. It doesn't matter if it’s a romantic partnership,

Been trying to decolonize lately? Me too.

My colleagues and I are just about to complete the last week co-facilitating an 8-week series with POC4NVC on Nonviolent Communication (NVC) for Black Indigenous People of Color (BIPOC). In a debriefing session this week I asked the question: What’s the difference between holding a

Friendship When Nobody is Okay

Communication skills aren’t just about figuring out the most effective words to say. Communication is fundamentally about relationships. It involves speaking, listening, observing, and empathizing to help steward our interdependence. As we navigate unfathomable challenges, this reliance on one another has become markedly clear and,

How do we show up when it matters?

Over the last weeks as urgency has grown around COVID-19, I keep finding myself thinking of a particular day in high school. I was 15 years old and a sophomore. I wasn’t terribly confident, but I was social and liked well-enough. I had friends across

Don’t Believe Everything You Think!

  When we speak with one another in English, we have a remarkable tendency to use the word “feel” to describe what are actually our thoughts. For example, have you ever said something like: “I feel like you did that on purpose!” or “I feel I’m a