Rebuilding Trust

A question I’ve often been asked is “How do we rebuild damaged trust?” Usually this is being asked in connection with an intimate relationship, but sometimes it’s within friendships, professional relationships, or other familial relationships. I don’t imagine there’s a recipe for rebuilding trust that works

Welcoming the inner creatures!

At NVC retreats and workshops where participants are invited to read out a poem that somehow supports their living of NVC, I’ve always enjoyed it when this one shows up: The Guest House by Jelaluddin Rumi This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival. A joy,

Sounds like you’re saying I’m wrong…

Message from a workshop participant: I understand the idea of not judging someone’s choice of words or their actions. I understand that the goal is to simply inform the person how their choice of words or actions may impact me. I can inform the other person that

W.A.I.T before you speak or hit “Send”

It can be tricky to give examples of “effective workplace communication,” but let’s start with something we know… We know that we can speak or send words to a co-worker, or group of co-workers, that lead to disconnection, conflict, diminished trust and reduced workplace productivity. This

Has NVC given you any new enemies?

In his book entitled Speak Peace in a World of Conflict, Marshall Rosenberg writes: “we need to liberate ourselves from enemy images - the thinking that says there is something wrong with the people whose actions or values we don’t agree with.” In a similar vein, he also

Do the solutions find you?

  "Get connected to the needs, and the solutions will find you." Since 2005, I’ve been living with this idea, a statement I heard Marshall Rosenberg make a number of times during my first two years of training in NVC. At around the same time, I heard

NVC in the Workplace?

Does Nonviolent Communication work when you’re at work? This is a question I’ve been exploring for the last 11 years. I very much enjoy visiting corporations and other organizations as a trainer, and also as a coach. I’ve coached people at every level of organizational hierarchy

Running an Imaginary Conversation In Your Head?

There’s a conversation you wish you could have, or that you are going to have, and versions of that conversation just keep spinning around and around in your mind. Perhaps you know that feeling? Maybe you already had a conversation with someone, and it did not go

Switching on NVC

“I love NVC but I always forget to use it in the moments when I most need it.” Over the years I’ve heard variations on this statement from many workshop and practice group participants. A related question I frequently hear is “How do you stay calm