The Power of Gratitude

“Gratitude is the heart’s memory.” —French Proverb The practice of expressing gratitude and being thankful is a choice that unleashes positive energy into our lives. Many psychologists agree that gratitude is the healthiest human emotion. Focusing on things that we are grateful for will put things

Overcoming Guilt and Experiencing Freedom

Letting Go of Resentments Towards Yourself We have all done something that we regret or feel guilt about. Guilt is not a bad thing. It is an alarm going off telling us that we did something that may not have been in alignment with our value

Slowing Down and Enriching Life

The practice of slowing down can be experienced as a gift for anyone who can master this discipline. So many times we may be so busy that we can forget to unwrap this gift and focus on what is most important to us. We may

Choice vs. Submission or Rebellion

“Never give any system the power over you to rebel or submit.” — Marshall Rosenberg  When an entity, system or individual has authority or power and mandates something we do not agree with we appear to have only two choices: to submit or to rebel. If we

A Needs-Centered Approach to Life

From a young age, I was taught that all human beings were selfish from birth. This was instilled in me as a boy and later as an adult. This theory of human nature seemed to explain why there was so much violence and evil in

Finding Meaning in Tragedy

     "Be patient towards all that is unresolved in your heart and learn to love the questions themselves." – Rainer Maria Rilke, Letters to a Young Poet Sometimes we may not understand why certain things occur in our lives. Whether we are experiencing tragedy, loss, or

Practicing Nonviolence in Our Current Times

  “Nonviolence is not a garment to be put on and off at will, its seat is in the heart and it must be an inseparable part of our very being.” —Mahatma Gandhi 1   The principles of nonviolence that Mahatma Gandhi and Martin Luther King Jr. practiced, modeled, and

Seeing the Good in Others

There are many stories about Martin Luther King Jr. that remind us of his dream. There is one story in particular that stands out and reminds me to see the good in others. It is a story that goes back to when King was in a

Beyond Praise: Expressing Gratitude

There seems to be a widespread assumption that praise is always a good thing. It is not uncommon for teachers to be told to praise a child every day. Some are even evaluated on how close they come to this standard. Many books on parenting

Parenting for Connection

When I was a boy I received a King Kong action figure for my birthday. At that time I really liked King Kong and this gift was very special. While playing with my toy I soon found out that my little brother (around 3 years