Loading Events

« All Events

  • This event has passed.

Communication Dojo: Making Requests, Saying/Hearing ‘No’ – 4-week serieswith Newt Bailey

January 9 @ 7:00 pm - 9:00 pm


2018 Jan. 9, Jan. 16, Jan. 23, Jan. 30 (every week, Tue)


Eventbrite tickets available across the sliding scale $150 to $300 – this means we’d love to receive $300 for the series, and would like to receive a minimum of $150. Let us know if money is an obstacle for you.


Registration hosted by Eventbrite

Read about our philosophy of money
Read about our cancellation policy

Note: We encourage you to register soon to ensure your space. When this class has reached its capacity, we will begin a waiting list. After registering you will receive a confirmation email with parking and public transit information.

“The content of Communication Dojo classes and the trainers are incredible. NVC has brought this bright sense of presence and reflection to all aspects of my life… amazing. I’m happier because I see people as curious beings. We are all doing our best out there. NVC allowed me to peel off a layer I didn’t know was there. NVC is a powerful tool everyone has access to. It is the simplest way of communicating yet for some reason it isn’t obvious until you take a moment to learn and discover. We tend to overlook these needs inside us and inside other people. Check it out, you will be amazed and inspired. ”
– K. Kittinger, San Francisco

Course Description

Asking for What You Want, Responding to “Yeses” and “Nos,” Saying “Yes” and “No” in a Way that Maximizes Connection

What do you want to ask for? Who are you willing to ask? What stops you asking? What do you want to say “Yes” to, and where is your honest answer a “No”? Making requests is often necessary if we want to give others the opportunity to support us. The risk of hearing “No” to our requests is one of many reasons we do not ask. Also, when others ask things of us we can be afraid to ever say “No” – thus putting us at risk of growing exhaustion or resentment. In this series we’ll practice making requests, and saying and hearing “No,” in a way that maintains and grows connection between us.

Learn the “Connected Conversation Process” and “The Ladder Questions” – the fundamental processes of the Communication Dojo.

As soon as you concern yourself with the ‘good’ and ‘bad’ of your fellows, you create an opening in your heart for maliciousness to enter. Testing, competing with, and criticizing others weaken and defeat you.— Morihei Ueshiba, Founder of Aikido

Communication Dojo: Working Together to Connect, 4-week committed series with Newt Bailey
The Communication Dojo is a learning environment designed for everyone, regardless of prior experience with Nonviolent Communication. Now the Communication Dojo approach is being taught as a four week committed series – it’s a great recipe for building skills, knowledge, and community from week to week!

The Communication Dojo approach is inspired in part by teaching from martial arts. Class participants watch a brief demonstration of this structured approach to dialogue and then break into pairs and “learn by doing.”

Participants simply follow a few guidelines while having a conversation on topics of their choosing. Most seem to become quickly at ease with the basic dialogue structure, and can then start to incorporate new skills, principles and awareness at their own pace.

Some features of the Communication Dojo:
*Efficient use of class time to maximize learning
*High proportion of practice time in pairs – learning communication by communicating.
*Minimal reliance on “jargon” i.e. language that might be confusing or alienating for those not familiar with NVC.
*Little likelihood of people developing any sense of “Doing it wrong” or “Trying to do it right.”

Who’s it for?

Experienced with NVC? – Do you sometimes find that your attempts to use NVC do not lead to the connection you want? Perhaps they even lead to greater disconnection? Or are you looking for a different kind of NVC learning environment for friends, family members, or colleagues you really want to introduce to the power and potential of NVC.

New to NVC? – Come try out the Communication Dojo. You’ll find that whatever your current approach to communication, you can start from that point and expand your range of options from there at a rate that suits you.

About Newt Bailey

About Newt Bailey
Newt’s passion is to help people communicate with each other more deeply, to experience greater intimacy, and to find the potential for mutually-satisfying change that lies within conflict.

From his first training in 2005 Newt has set out to understand and share with others the essential core of NVC. He believes strongly in teaching the principles of NVC in a way that frees students from specialized language, and allows facility with connected communication to grow in small, quickly assimilated steps. The Communication Dojo has been Newt’s testing ground for his latest ideas and approaches, and he is now bringing it to BayNVC.

Since 2006 Newt has been facilitating NVC groups, and leading intro classes and class series like Foundations 1, Foundations 2, and his own Communication Dojo classes, in public and organizational settings, and with prisoners and parolees. He is also on the teaching team of John Kinyon’s NVC Mediation yearlong programs, most recently co-leading a yearlong program in Poland.


“I really enjoyed the instant feedback telling me how my words were impacting my partner.”
“The real power point is reporting on what’s happening in the moment.”
“I think I just broke through my habit of being hard on myself!”
“I saw how mistaken I often am about whether I really ‘get’ the other person, or they get me – this process allowed us to see that and really get each other.”


San Francisco, CA, Zen Center Conference Room, 300 Page Street @ Laguna


Email newt@communicationdojo.com


See more Communication Dojo videos here:
See more of Newt here:


January 9
7:00 pm - 9:00 pm
Event Categories:
Event Tags:


Newt Bailey
415 694 8798
No Comments

Sorry, the comment form is closed at this time.