Together and apart: reflections on the shootings in Charleston

Last week I was in the intensely uncomfortable position of breaking the news about the shootings in Charleston to a number of people taking part in one of BayNVC Leadership Program’s retreats. While contemplating how to do it, I was painfully aware of the exquisite...

Conflict Hotline

NVC TV! Berkeley Community Television broadcast 22 episodes of the Conflict Hotline, a monthly television show featuring Miki Kashtan and other BayNVC trainers. A Conflict Coach, usually Miki, guided the other trainers through role-plays in order to support callers and other viewers in learning about using...

Past Shows

June 2011 - Parenting II Last episode of CH until we return. We return to parenting this month with three more scenarios and an interview with Yannai Kashtan, a 12 year old who has grown up in a family dedicated to NVC principles. Scenarios: A child...

Vulnerability as a Spiritual Path

Real fearlessness is the product of tenderness. It comes from letting the world tickle your heart, your raw and beautiful heart. You are willing to open up, without resistance or shyness, and face the world. You are willing to share your heart with others. Chogyam...

Self-Acceptance without Limits

Here's a paradox. On the one hand, self-acceptance provides a clear foundation for integrating the practice and especially the consciousness of Nonviolent Communication (NVC). On the other hand, people who want to embrace this practice are, like so many people in the culture at large,...

Feedback without Criticism

I have yet to meet a person who likes criticism. Instead, what most of us do is contract inside when we hear a criticism. Sometimes we respond defensively, sometimes we add the criticism to our pile of self-judgment, and sometimes we deflect and ignore what's...

The Heart of Our Yes

Have you ever experienced an immediate "no" when being asked to do or give something? In my experience, that "no" is usually reactive and disconnected, not a genuine response that comes from connection and from holding all the needs in front of me. I have pondered...